How to Break a Heart

by Desmond Myers

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Written after a vacation in Fernandina Beach, Florida the song was very influenced by The Beach Boys.

“I wanted to make something with some surprises in it, something that had movement like "Good Vibrations" or "Our Prayer” which is where the tempo changes come from. Lyrically the song was influenced by Lou Reed's "Perfect Day. I love how he wrote this melancholic song about being happy. As someone who dreams a lot about vacation, I usually feel a little depressed at least once during that time off so that resonated with me. For me the song was more about not being able to relax out of worry for my young family, especially my kids. But I still wanted the song to feel beacy. It’s like I wanted to make a beach song, but like a wintery beach song.”

The song is split into three sections with different tempos. A reverb drenched surf guitar kicks off the first section. The rhythm section comes in at the first tempo change an R&B groove kicks in which builds into a climax at the second chorus. The climax then resolves to the final section which is a callback to the beginning. The final section resolves it main mantra with the lyrics:

"Love them till you lose composure/tear your silly world apart/this is how you don't get over/this is how you break a heart"

Reinforcing the idea that love is about sacrifice, the subtle chipping away of our ego that we must do to make space for higher things in our existence. Happiness breaks our hearts, in a good way.

The song was recorded in Atlanta and produced in Nashville, Tennessee with Louis Johnson (LONAS, Mackenzie Porter) and Reed Beiren (GAYLE, James Droll). It releases January 13th on all platforms.

lyrics

This is how you don’t get over
How you tear yourself apart
You let somebody take you over
You let somebody break your heart

Love them till the fire smolders
Never spend a day apart
This is how you don’t get over
This is how you break a heart

So this is how you don’t get over
This is how you break a heart

I think today we should just let it slide
Drive all the way down 95
I swear to god no one would know we’re gone
Which makes you wonder why we try
Cause if I only have one life with you
Don’t wanna spend it in the rain
Let’s go down to Fernandina
Where we’ll plan our escape
Cause I wanna see you in the magic hour
Just before the sun goes down
Cause if I only have one life with you
I wanna watch the lights go out

So this is how you don’t get over
How you tear yourself apart
You let somebody take you over
You let somebody break your heart

Love them till the fire smolders
Never spend a day apart
Sit and watch the day grow older
This is how you break a heart

So this is how you don’t get over
How you tear yourself apart
Let somebody make you sober
Let them make you do your part
Love them till you lose composure
Tear your silly world apart
And as their memory grows older
This is how you break a heart
This is how You don’t get over
This is how you break a heart

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released January 12, 2024
Written by Desmond Myers

Produced by: Louis Johnson (LONAS) & Reed Beiren

Bass: Jake Dane
Drums: Cole McSween
Keys: Rhett Huffman
Vocals, Guitars, Piano, Synth: Desmond Myers

Recorded at 1971 Sounds, Atlanta Georgia
Engineer: Todd Lyons

Mix: Paul Kimsal
Master: Jean Charles Panizza @Climax Mastering

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Desmond Myers Atlanta, Georgia

While growing up on small farm in rural North Carolina, Desmond learned to appreciate blues and rock music from his late father.
As a teenager he became fascinated with southern hip hop, R&B, and electronic dance music. His sound today is an amalgamation of these sounds. ... more

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